Softball Mom looking back….. It goes by FAST so sit down, cheer, enjoy the journey, have fun, count the positive things happening, make life long friends.
So now the Travel Ball season begins and we reflect on High School and finish seeing some of the most amazing College Softball in NCAA and NAIA…(yes, google it… NAIA – athletic scholarships and an amazing level of play for Student Athletes)
The Chat boards are buzzing. Everyone has their own opinion and expectations of the past and what tomorrow holds.
Here’s a few words of wisdom!
The opportunity to play the game is PRICELESS and a huge Privilege at any level. But YOU have to train, condition, eat right, practice manners and good behavior. Not everyone is talented enough and not all parents make the right decisions to get there so RESPECT it when YOU do.
Parents! I heard someone say “YOUR kid isn’t good enough to cause all that trouble”!! Think about it for a minute. What are YOU really trying to accomplish when YOU hold the key, the answer, the solution to ALL the issues YOU’RE raising? Teach YOUR athletes to work harder, do more, find out what it takes to be the coaches favorite, develop better skill, train with professionals, LISTEN, LEARN, and APPLY and oops, get along with other! Please think about what YOU’RE saying because to many of us it sounds like Excuses and Blaming… I’ve said it many times that the comments sound like excuses and they’ll say “no really” and I’ll say “yes really”. Play that scenario in YOUR head before YOU complain.
YOUR attitude and YOUR perspective is what YOUR athlete is going to develop so YOU ’RE the solution!
Quitting, blaming, making excuses as it all turns out bad in the end because what didn’t happen was the necessary work, perspective, attitude, and approach to problem solving and YOU’VE created a culture of behaviors that will repeat itself over and over again. It’s not the black cloud, it’s YOU!
It’s easier to be a loser, a quitter and a complainer and YOU have lot’s of friends sitting with YOU in the corner, in the parking lot and on the sidelines when YOU’RE all commiserating instead of getting to work! Misery loves company!
Where ever YOU go YOU go with YOU so FIX YOU!!!
YOU choose the path for YOUR athlete every time YOU make a decision to make it easier for them instead of providing the tools for them to “overcome” and grow past the challenges. Moving teams, playing pick up player, playing on teams with only 12 or less all cause the end result of YOUR happiness when they get to college. YOU have to teach them about the Bench and about working harder even when it doesn’t seem fair, they win in the end because they did more work and they OVERCAME and they were better athletes for it too!
It happens the same at every layer all the way up to college. YOU picked the Tball team and Travel ball teams just like YOU picked the colleges and then YOU complain about the schedule, the lineup and the Coaching. Really??? I’m so confused, didn’t “YOU” do YOUR homework and ask the right questions and evaluate the situation? I hear parents complaining about their schedule, well didn’t YOU know where YOU were going before YOU committed to the team? We have all been down this road but YOU have to learn from it, grow and teach others to not make the same mistakes. If it happens to YOU again, then YOU OWN IT! Don’t blame someone else for YOUR mistakes.
It cracks me up to see the movement at the college levels. Didn’t YOU choose that program or did YOU allow YOU r daughter to make that decision without proper knowledge, I doubt it. Just like the College Coaches made the mistake picking YOU , YOU must have been on YOU r best behavior every time they came to see YOU r daughter play because no College Coach wants a parent that doesn’t appreciate the opportunity to play at the highest level, that complains and criticizes and thinks they have better ideas or options. It’s all the same because it is YOU !
Well, we all know how this story ends. Many don’t get the chance or opportunity because they weren’t taught how to overcome and work harder and earn it against all odds and all the bad coaching and playing favorites. So REALLY don’t blow it while YOU ’RE there! That’s YOUR opportunity NOT someone else’s fault.
Control what YOU control, YOUR athlete! Fix it before it gets to college or its highly unlikely it won’t get there.
Imagine a crowd of people going to YOUR office/workplace and yelling at YOU and watching every move YOU make and criticizing every decision and yelling and gossiping and complaining at the job YOU’RE doing? They get to sit and eat and snack and watch YOU! Then they go home and get on social media and hammer at the keyboard some more. This is what the Coaches feel like each and every weekend at every level. And it is easier to be part of the complaining crowd then the positive parent that chooses to look at all the GREAT things this coach is providing. Complaining about the coach only makes YOU look bad.
YOU’RE going to miss it when it’s gone!
Be part of the solution not the “know it all that has an opinion” crowd. Be thankful for what others are providing for YOUR athlete. YOU picked them, remember… and don’t tell me YOU didn’t pick the high school coach because the last set of parents ran that good coach off YOUR roster!
Pitcher parents! YOU signed up for that role. Embrace it, YOU control more of the outcome than YOU think. It grinds my gears to hear the pitcher parents complain about the pitch calls or the umpire calls. Be better, get to work, if YOUR athlete does the best job possible then everyone is better off. Don’t complain if there is an error if YOUR pitcher isn’t planting every location and doesn’t make a fielding error too, come on…. It’s a team effort for sure so do YOUR part, get a more comfortable bucket because YOU can contribute positively if the work is done!
I challenge YOU all this season, whatever age group to grab a note pad or note app and jot down all the GREAT things that this coach is doing for YOUR athlete. Be APPRECIATIVE of the coaches 99.99% are NOT paid no matter how much ya’ll think they are. A privileged few get their expenses reimbursed and still people think that is too much when these coaches take away from their family and give their vacation time to helping YOUR athletes! Just a simple THANK YOU or we APPRECIATE YOU is the answer. Then get to work and solve the playing time issues in YOUR own backyard, YOUR athletes wins!
Have winning expectations, that match the winning work ethic and hang out with other winners not WHINNERS!
The “Bench”. Most players fear being put on the bench only because someone told them that it is not a good place to be. Why is it perceived as not a good place to be? I’ve said it for years, you can’t manipulate playing time so if 7 players never touch the ball and only the pitcher and catcher can be guaranteed playing time, why is it so bad to be on the bench? Here’s a new perspective that every softball parent needs to share with their players. If there are 12 players on a team minimum, then if the 3 on the bench come in to play they have to sub for 3 other players, that means only 6 players aren’t on the bench. Half the team are “sub’s”. Any many more should rotate unless the rules in championship play prohibit the rotations.
You’re right, I grew up in the land of softball and raised my kids around the game where it was an honor to be on the bench for a team like the Orange County Bastbusters. You knew you made it… you would get recruited because coaches knew you were good enough to play on that team and to be on the bench on that team. Why you ask? Because you get trained by Coaches that know how to prepare you for the competition that you will face in college. If you’re not playing with or against your peers that you will play with or face in college then it makes it a lot harder to be ready to face that level of play.
Practice and training is where you get the tips and the repetition to be effective. The techniques and the experience can be created and repeated. You can’t get that experience in a game. I hear sooooo much crying from parents about playing time and I’ll share the magic secret, if you spend the time you spend crying and whining about playing time on preparing, teaching and training you’ll never have to worry. The hard work and effort will always pay off even if you just get one inning or one at bat. You can only play so long on natural talent as we have seen over the years the kid with talent and hard work will always outlast the kid with natural talent that doesn’t do the work. If you do everything YOU can to prepare your kid for the opportunities they’ll be more valuable and less likely to sit on the bench! Get it??
On the other hand, I’ve never understood why a Coach would put a kid on the roster if they can never find a place to put the kid in the game. Parents, put your kids on teams that they “can” play on. Take off your rosy glasses and put them on a team that they get the right training, coaching and can be put in the game without hurting the outcome of the game. Parents, get them to private or group hitting, fielding, technique training as a Coach will never have the time to individually train these kids as they have minimum coaching time to teach them to play as a team. It’s a privilege to be on a team where each kid is good enough to be on the field and on the bench.
I started playing this game in 1970 and it has changed significantly. However, one thing remains, the rules of the game that we all love puts 9 players on the field but you need depth on the bench to compete and to actually play the game. You need pinch runners that have speed and can slide. You need extra pitchers and catchers because of the amount of pressure and physical requirements. You need kids that can play another position at any time to cover injuries, sickness or absence. It made me crazy when we moved to Texas in 2007 and each team only wanted 10 on the roster. Then a kid gets sick or has another event or sport to play then it was left to the coach to find a “pick up player”. What the heck is that? Now you have another kid to train, teach and incorporate into the team chemistry all because someone else felt the team was a lessor priority. They all want their kids to stand there for the innings and act like that is valuable playing time. But they’re the least committed to the issues of the team and the Coach.
Let them all bat, what’s the big deal? Give them as many at bats as you can. What ever happened to playing 7 innings so the kids can get as many at bats as possible. Oh yah, the tournaments directors want as many teams as possible to make more money but it surely doesn’t create more playing time for the kids. You’re not preparing your kids to play the real game. Pitchers especially need to be able to get through an entire game to understand all the issues and challenges that lay ahead of them in college.
Play 7 innings! Host more “Friendly” games where you can play all 7 innings, teach and train and create opportunities for all kids on the field. The crying about being on the bench gets less when you can have the time to get them all in the game. Scrimmage your own team. I think it is ideal to have 16 to 18 on a seriously competitive roster, one that is trying to win National Championships. Never less than 12 or it becomes the Coaches issue because these are the classic teams where the parents complain the most and are the least dedicated because Susie has cheer, or volleyball or something else that is perceived as “balance” for them but not good for the team or the Coach. These are usually the families that have never coached because they don’t understand the responsibility of the Coach. Oh, I’ll have another blog about the Coach, don’t worry!
Here’s what the bench player should be doing. Cheering for their team. Keeping a score book so they understand the game. Charting pitches so they learn strategy. These tips can be modified by their level. I taught 10U players to keep the scorebook and they loved it. Have a coach talking to them explaining the game. Teaching the game to them while they wait their turn. Have them help the catcher get their gear on. Warm up a pitcher or two. There are so many things they can be doing. It is not punishment to be on the bench. Give them all a chance to be on the bench. Coaches… don’t make it so lopsided. This way they all get some opportunities and it will be obvious to the parents when you have to play only 9 by the rules.
It is a very rare moment for any player to NEVER sit the bench. And, those that haven’t, miss out on other aspects of the game.
I promise you they have less struggles in High School and College if they learn all aspects of the game including THE BENCH! This is a big reason why so many freshmen are leaving their college rosters, it is the first time the experience THE TEAM!
And FINALLY, no employer will ask how many innings you played, what division or anything other than a deep appreciate for a all the hard work, sweat, tears, teamwork and accomplishments they’ve made!
Teach the players the value of the Bench. Enjoy the journey, have fun along the way.
President, Collegiate Sports Advocate www.CollegiateSportsAdvocate.com
The Warning Signs of Inappropriate Interaction with Minors and how to recognize it.
The Warning Signs of Inappropriate Interaction with Minors and how to recognize it.
As Advocates for Student Athletes we feel it is our responsibility to continue to educate Student Athletes, their families, and others in the sporting community.
With Social Media and the constant barrage of information available it is important to put some warnings in place.
When CSA takes on a new Student Athlete, we take them through a training of Communication, Time Management, and Accountability. In the Communication segment we go through detailed information about the dangers of Social Media and the negative affects on a Student Athlete and now we will be adding the warnings and what to look for in inappropriate interaction with minors.
CSA is presenting to all Student Athletes the dangers of sexual predators and inappropriate conduct by others that they may come in contact with.
Warning Signs below are a collaboration of internet articles written to educate the public on the dangers.
Most sites agree that some of the signs may include:
Ways to protect your child
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I’m amazed at the amount of people in athletics who aspire to help their kids reach the next level but can’t seem to grasp the reality of it. How do parents presented with the numbers (kids aspiring to play collegiately vs available college roster spots) think that they’re going to pay for travel ball and the endless Camps and showcase gimmicks and all the other wasteful experiences that don’t have a bearing on recruiting and yet they really don’t have a plan in place to bring the success they want?!
CSA is NOT like the other recruiting agencies out there!!! We have a proven system that in 2 1/2 yrs has seen 105 athletes committed. We are a truly PERSONAL to YOU group of advocates who cater directly to our players and their families. We actually save our families money by helping you know what’s helpful vs what isn’t!! We are NOT a “DataBase Company” each player is individualized. If your kid isn’t playing at the HIGHEST of HIGH levels in Travel Softball then traveling the USA shouldn’t be on your to do list especially when college coaches aren’t following your team. Stop playing roulette with your kid’s futures and find a trusted source who has proven results. I promise you CSA’s fees are MINIMAL considering we stay with our players until COLLEGE graduation continuing to provide them with our support and cheering them on to their degrees and careers. Don’t waste another Showcase season without a PLAN of Action in place!!
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CSA Southeast Regional Director
1. Invest in weekly sessions with private hitting/pitching/catching/fielding instructors?
2. Invest time in conditioning/weight training/fundamental running mechanics?
3. Get to practice early and leave last?
4. Feed your body or Fuel your body?
5. Spend adequate time focusing on mastering the basic skills to this game?
6. Grind so hard you can’t hear what’s happening around you?
7. Focus on your mental game as much as your physical?
8. Request feedback from coaches on things to improve?
9. Work on your weaknesses as much or more than your strengths?
10. Lead by example in a humble/compassionate/competitive manner than earns the respect of your teammates?
If the answer is No...then stop wanting/hoping for what others are willingly working for. You’re not deserved anything in this game just bc you showed up. Work ethic catches and surpasses natural skill in a quickness.
#TeamCSA #BeCSA #RecruitingTruth
CSA Southeast Regional Director
BeKind! BeYou BeCSA
It continually amazes me how ADULTS can be so mean to Student Athletes. Why? Ask yourselves WHY do you need to put your negative comments out to others. Doesn’t matter if it is in a Company InBox or on your Facebook page. Just the negative thoughts alone are TOXIC and only hurt you. We call ourselves Advocates because we’re out here fighting for our Student Athletes. We don’t boast times, or statistics to trying to SELL a kid. We have a strong foundation of supporting and promoting POSITIVE accomplishment and moments that they have.
This is what is wrong with our Society. Somehow ADULTS feel that they have the RIGHT to post and comment and say mean things about others. Really??? Are you still in Junior High, and there too, we need to teach our youth that this is NOT the way to deal with jealousy, past history, past grudges or whatever your ridiculous motives are. The negative lives within YOU so maybe your day will be better too. I’m so sickened by the comments I see on the internet criticizing Student Athletes, instead, GO make a positive message to them. Put aside your petty ways and realize it is only hurting you!
Start over TODAY… when your critical thoughts enter your mind, ask yourself WHY? What good would this thought do? How will it be received? Who will it BENEFIT? Where will this be seen? When is this EVER appropriate.
Try a new approach today. Dismiss that thought immediately. It’s not a threat that someone else has success or support. Cheer for the others. Support our SPORT! Make this WORLD a better place TODAY.
Please share this with others. WE, not me, US not I need to make this a better life each and every day.
BeYOU – Be A Leader - Trying Times
It has taken a couple weeks for me to sort through my feelings about all the issues our Student Athletes have to cope with in this generation. Gun Violence, Mental Health, Social Media, Family, and School challenges. To me, these events seem so polarizing due to the constant battering of information and immediate reaction to everything that is said and done.
In my generation if it wasn’t on the nightly news; it wasn’t being discussed so we were somewhat protected from the evils of this world. We still had major crises and a few come to mind. Such as the McDonald's shooting, where a gunman entered a McDonalds’ and killed 22 innocent victims, or the Chow Chilla bus kidnapping where they kidnapped a bus load of kids from school and were held at gun point. There were the Manson Murders, and the Hillside Strangler, that resulted in the death of a classmate and a brother to my dear friend Troy. We were all terrified and these events changed our lives.
Social Media has changed these types of events because they're constantly revisiting these issues, the trauma, the opinions, and the details continually. Worse, then everyone has an opinion about the issues with little or no filter as to how their words affect others. It is difficult for our young Student Athletes to be bombarded with this constant reality of the EVIL world that we live in. They’re brains are not mature enough to cope with the intensity of this information. We are NOT giving them solutions and coping skills.
I think all of us agree, ENOUGH is ENOUGH. But the solutions are NOT with our Government, or our Families alone. We need to give them life tools, “Eternal” life tools.
We want to provide a SOLUTION for our Student Athletes. Get involved with a Local FCA group. We have a Softball FCA led by Dana Jenkins. email@example.com CSA has partnered with FCA http://fcasoftball.org/ and we want to encourage our Student Athletes to JOIN, get involved. Help others solve their issues. Be a leader in making change! Don't wait for someone else to do it for you. There is a powerful resource waiting for YOU. Form your OWN group. Gather, Discuss, and Help others.
Contact FCA to create your own support group! Join an already existing one! Seek the Answers through HIM!
Matthew 19:26Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
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Vaping – WHY? BeYOU - BeResponsible
Parents, please educate your Student Athletes that this is NOT something they can do. Peer pressure, the allure of fun and coolness. They see it on TV, Social Media and are given the impression that it is legal.
We have heard that there are Students getting suspended from High School and Athletics and worse, cut from College programs due to vaping. Not only does it hurt the Student Athlete is damages their teammates who lose a valuable player on the team.
Let me share some links on the health risks. The majority of the long-term effects aren’t even known yet.
They do put tobacco products in these liquids and parents, they’re smoking CHEMICALS! Please keep a watch on your Student Athletes and educate them on the dangers.
#TeamCSA #RecruitingTruth #BeCSA
Bailey Fernandez is a 2019 catcher 1B power hitter from Clermont Florida. She lives with her parents and has three older sisters. Bailey started playing travel ball at 8u out of West Orange girls club. She was juggling school and league ball all while playing travel ball. Bailey played center field and we noticed she had been complaining of headaches a lot. Coaches weren’t happy with the now 10 yr old always complaining of a headache while playing in a Florida tournament in the middle of the summer. She would get benched while struggling with headaches. Finally, her coaches said travel ball wasn’t the sport cut out for Bailey that we should just stick to the local league play.
We decided to get Baileys headaches checked out. I thought it was headaches from the sun being she was playing travel softball in sunny Florida, it gets hot on the fields. No, doctors at local hospital said she was struggling with severe allergies. A few weeks went by. While trying to find another team Bailey took a turn for the worse. Christmas morning 2011 we woke Bailey to see what Santa had left for her. She really wanted a electric guitar. Bailey had no interest in that guitar under the tree, she couldn’t even walk. We had to help her walk she was vomiting every where and couldn’t hold her head up without pain and vomiting. We took her into Dr Yarckin 8am Monday morning. Doctor Yarckin looked into Baileys eyes and said take her to Arnold Palmer now that he would call in a room for her. He instructed us to stay calm that she needed a MRI to get her whatever she wanted to eat “if she could eat” she was still vomiting on the way to Aronld Palmer about 30 min away. After MRI a team of doctors came into our room with news of a cist and tumor on Baileys brain. It was heartbreaking we were prepared for the worst and we’re told she needed brain surgery with in the next 24 hours. With hundreds of people checking on Bailey it was very overwhelming I was scared for my baby girl. She went into a six hour surgery the next morning. It was stage 2 brain cancer and they got it all off her brain stem! Dr. Olaviaria said the surgery only took four hours instead of six, that she was a blessing.
The good Lord has a plan for her that she would be apart of the study for the next 7 years to make sure the cancer doesn’t grow back!! She struggled during recovery allowed to go home on New Years Day but still could not play softball. Bailey was sad wanted to know why good did this to her. After 3 months of going to Arnold Palmer every week she now only had to come in every month for next 6 months and then once a year until 2018-2019. Bailey was excited her team of doctors released her to play ball again as long as she wore a face mask while on field. She was happy Diamond Fastpitch 10u Ron Negrete took her on his team as center fielder knowing she was still weak and needed to get strong again.
Bailey has always been ashamed of her brain cancer and never wanted to talk about it as she felt it would stop a college coach from recruiting her! I want her fear of her story to be joyful and we are not afraid of what people think now and want to share her story!
Today she’s stronger than ever training hard with Sergio Rodriguez and Garrett Nuss at V2pro Fitness in Astatula Florida. She’s leading in all her district and HS team stats. She’s hit 11 career home runs, she’s a beast with a pop time of 1.7, arm speed of 71 and bat speed of 81! She’ll be 17 on April 17th she plays travel ball for Texas Glory 18u and has made the varsity team at South Lake HS her freshman, sophomore and junior year. We give all the Glory to god he definitely has a plan for her! #TrustGod #GloryGirl
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